Last night I got a punishment spanking for lying/disobience. On my HOH chore list he had for me to have something done by 10 AM, well I overslept. He texted me and told me to get up right then and I texted back that I was. Well an hour passed by and I ignored him and went back to sleep. Well, that got me in trouble!!!!
The atticipationn of the spanking was killing me b/c as I mentioned in a previous post I had been finding them erotic, but last night he had me go outside in the garage (we have a family and people in our house) pull down my shorts and panties to my kneese and bend over the car. He gave me 4 smacks with the wooden spoon, and that last smack stung bad! Can you say OUCH? During the spanking I was waitin for the next spank and it was killing me. You see, I was finding them as a turn on right UP UNTIL it is actually gonna happen! So when I was told to pull down my shorts and panties thats when I did start regretting it b/c its embarrassing, and then bending over the car with my butt in the air! GAH! :/ Each smack hurt worse than the last! Thankfully he does them pretty fast...... However, if he waits a sec or 2 in between it will probably make it worse. Which Im already dreading tonights spanking! Im not finding it very erotic b/c he has already warned me that I will learn to dread them and he will be using more strength behind each smack. PLUS, being me..... I was out at the store today and tried finding a different spoon.......... One that might not hurt as bad since I knew he was gonna be adding more smacks and spanking harder......... (and I do need him to do that, I NEED TO DREAD them!) but that wasn't very smart! After I got home I realized that the flat one is gonna hurt a lot worse! Plus I also needed a new hair brush b/c I get tons of tangles in my hair so I bought one of those special brushes...... I looked at it when I got home and thought to myself that people actually use hair brushes to spank with...... so I took that hair brush and smack the palm of my hand!!!! Oh HOLY HELL! That crap hurt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im not sure what he is planning on using tonight? The wooden spoon? The flat wooden spoon, or the hair brush? Since he said it was gonna be dreaded and hurt, Im betting the hair brush! :(
After my spanking last night I hugged him and thanked him for my spanking as I always do. People who do not have a DD marriage do not understand this. But in this kind of relationship, you are compelled to want to be submissive after a spanking! It resets your brain and reminds you of your wrongdoing, but also your husband took the lead and you look at him in such a different way. You totally give yourself to him, and you want him to take you! Having to go through pulling down your own panties and bending over and having your husband spank you reminds you of your role in the household, but also his!!!!!!! He is the head, the authority, and what he says goes! I actually feel a relief and feeling of contentment after my spanking b/c there is also something so personal about it.
I will never be able to thank my husband enough! He does not like spanking me and causing me pain, but we both realize that spankings/punishment/humilation/discipline is pain and when done on your bare bottom where it should be done it is not harmeful, yet very, very helpful in many ways!!!!!! My husband loves me enough to give me all of that, to use his authority over me to correct me, and for bad behavior, disrespect, not listening, dishonesty, for things that are harmful to myself or others, and he knows it also resets me and reminds me of who is really in control in our house and that is my owner, loving HOH!!!!!! ♥♥♥
The next time I blog will be after I recieve my "you have been warned its gonna be a spanking you are gonna dread". So it will either be tonight, or tomorrow before 11Am as that is one of my chores.
Tarzan will be posting soon.
~Jane DDLearning ----- soon to be "sore bottom, can't sit down" (worried and finally dreading it! :( )
Interesting...I am curious as to what you might have been thinking when you made your purchases.
ReplyDeleteYou poor, poor people. How do you even live like this? This is the 21st century
ReplyDeleteSo. All women need to be spanked by their husbands or their boyfriends. Just because it's the 21st Century doesn't mean Jack. Is it biblical for the woman to obey her husband and if she doesn't she deserve. Doesn't matter what you think, it's their life and their marriage so please keep out of it.
DeleteBc it's our choice of living, and it is our choice of what we believe in so why should it matter what anybody else thinks, our marriage and our life, my marriage has totally uprooted since we started this in 2013 I love my life, I love knowing then I am doing something good I love that I please my husband and all kinds of ways especially when I respect him and I get that same respect back to me.. everybody is entitled to their own opinions though and that is just my opinion
DeleteThis is the way all women should be, totaly respectful of there husbants. Ive bin married for23 years now and i still adore him more now than ever! He dont smack me. But sure would like it. But he does correct me with a strong voice . Men should be in total control.
ReplyDeleteMy husband don't mistreat me but he sure will give me a huge awakening on my backside
Deletegood for u two ,if it works and it feels like a fit ,go for it.
ReplyDeleteI can so relate. I was also feeling it was somewhat erotic in my mind...until the actual spanking. Ummm...nope! Not at all!!! My husband has stepped up and changed how he spanks and now they are much more painful and efficient in getting the point across. This is all new for us so I have been loving back-reading your journey! :)
ReplyDeleteGood for you. I respect both of you. your husband for taking up the responsibility as the head of the home and spanking you, and two for you to obey him and take your spanking.
DeleteTruth is I'm an acting like a spoiled little rotten brat for the past few days, being cocky and rude, so I have already been informed what's happening here in a bit, I did something pretty dangerous that could have hurt me if not killed myself or someone else... So I'm in Alot of trouble have...it's my own fault...
DeleteMy husband spanks me very night. When he gets home from work he expects me to be bent over the back of a chair in our room with my panties down and the belt laid out for him. He gives me 50 strokes with the belt, unless I'm not in position when he walks in then I get more. When I forget to do one of my household duties or chores then he makes me go pick a switch off or tree and has me back over the chair nude for this. We agree that this is to remind me to be a good wife and that he is in charge.
ReplyDeleteSpanking is psychologically fascinating to women. Even those that aren't into being spanked are drawn to the topic. That's why so many women have read the book or seen the movie Fifty Shades of Grey.
ReplyDeleteI've also found spanking to be a topic women want to discuss with someone they can trust. Age doesn't seem to matter. A girl that rode with me to high school told me how she got spanked. A mother in the neighborhood described being spanked over her mother's lap with a hairbrush when she was growing up. A college coed told me about being spanked by her father after she smarted off to him during one of her visits home during her freshman year.. A grandmother told me being spanked by her father in front of her family after she was married. She even admitted what she'd done to deserve it. None were ashamed in the least. One reason may be there is some comfort in knowing they're not the only one interested in the subject.
I was spanked on my wedding night for the first time (and no, it was not expected)...and have been spanked off and on ever since. I have a love-hate relationship with it.
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I am not alone though...
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I have found that being spanked by my husband really helps me, especially when I am disrespectful and unkind. We began living a DD lifestyle four years ago, when I did something that really hurt my husband badly. He almost left me, but he said I was "worth it" and stayed. Still, he remained very angry, and we could not get past it. So, I told him that I had been reading about the DD lifestyle on line and how couples really felt that it worked.
ReplyDeleteMy husband was totally against it, but I knew we had to do SOMETHING, so I told him this is what I REALLY wanted. Next, we went out, together, and bought a dow rod..and some soothing cream, that he would rum on my bottom, after the bare-bottom spanking.
My husband decided that I would receive 50 strokes, in increments of 10, beginning with a hand spanking. He had me get on all fours. It was so awkward for both of us, but it felt so right to me. I knew I deserved to be punished. I also knew that, when we were done with this spanking, it would be over. We agreed to that. Once he smoothed that healing cream onto my sore bum, the issue would be resolved. Taken care of. My husband told me to count out loud.
What happened next shocked me. When he was done those first ten strokes, my husband burst into tears. He REALLY didn't want to do this. So, I hugged him and held him and kissed him and reassured him that, while we could stop right there, I really believed this was going to help us.
So, he had me go down on all fours, again, and this time he used the dow rod. It hurt a LOT. After 50 strokes, I knew we were not done, because we had already talked about the possibility of my husband becoming aroused and how it would be my responsibility to take care of that. And yet, we understood that a punishment spanking was often not followed by sex in which the wife would find pleasure. This was punishment, after all, and we both took it very seriously.
So, we decided that anal sex would be in order. I bent over, and he applied the lube. He was very, very gentle and kept asking me if I was okay. I told him that it was uncomfortable but that I wanted him to keep going, because this was a part of my penance, and I accepted it.
I feel that this first spanking may have actually saved our marriage. That was four years ago, and there have been many spankings, since, but that one was definitely the most difficult. My last spanking was about 6 weeks ago, after I yelled at my husband in the car. I received 30 stokes with the ratan cane (very thin). I was so glad that my husband agreed to spank me for that offense, because I was feeling very bad about it, and I knew I had hurt him with my words.
My husband and I agree that it's better for me to receive a spanking than for us to hurt each other with or words. In the past, we would fight and say ugly things to each other. Now, I know that he is in charge, and if I am disrespectful, he will not shout at me. I will just be over his knee.
I am male and I am married.... Opposite to all writers here, I want my wife to spank me, in the same way the husbands spank their wives. Normally it is me who misbehaves with my wife and this all is due to the stress which I feel when I return from office work. I do not know how to convince her to do so, however I have talked to her on it twice or thrice.
ReplyDelete"Spanking is psychologically fascinating to women. Even those that aren't into being spanked are drawn to the topic."
ReplyDeleteThis statement is absolutely true. Nor is it anything new.
My husband and I are new to this and I am the one that asked to begin this journey. We have been together for 22 years (married 19). I have a major control issue and sometimes act as if I have nothing to lose and do as I please. I know this is wrong and was finding myself upset that my husband allowed it. He has agreed to try this with some dragging of the feet, of course. I have had two minor spankings for not following through on business stuff and for fighting with him over something he told me to do. The other day I got upset over his reaction to something (not dropping his plans for me) so I lied to him and told him I had to run errands around town, but left upset and went to my sisters for the rest of the evening. I did tell him where I went but the next day I told him I was mad when I left and didn't have errands to run. I was feeling guilty for lying to him. He is still mad that I lied to him and said I have 20 spankings with a wooden spoon coming for lying and disrespecting him. I am dreading the spanking and wish he would just get it over with. Now, my credit card bill came in (my budget is 900 a month for family needs) and the bill is 1,300. I don't want to tell him with a spanking already looming over my head.. Why did this dang bill come now........ Feeling worried... Is it normal to have so many things happen back to back in the beginning of this journey? I feel like I just keep messing up, but have done so well on so many other areas. I am going to tell him about my credit card prior to the spanking I already have coming. As I think he will be mad and find it disrespectful if I keep it from him until after. I just hate telling him I did another thing that we already discussed. I WILL be getting an expense book to keep better track of my monthly charges, I just hope me telling him what my plan is will help some.... Sigh!!
ReplyDeleteHello people
ReplyDeleteMy husband disciplines me a lot. Every day when he comes home from work, I am waiting naked in our bedroom, because that's what he expects. He uses a whip and I have to lay face down on the bed. He usually whips me 20-30 times in a row. I know I deserve it. He is in charge, as God meant it to be. This is what makes a marriage last forever.
ReplyDeleteWe have been married for two years and the first time he whipped me was on our wedding night. It was straight after we had left the wedding party and arrived at the little cabin in the mountains, that our families had bought for us. Mind you, he and I had talked about what we expected from a marriage and about the role of the husband and the role of the wife. So it didn't come as a total surprise to me that he expected to have the right to discipline me. But it did come as a surprise that when we had entered the cabin, walked into the bedroom and placed down our things, he told me to undress and be ready for some discipline. Well, of course a newlywed husband wants his wife to undress when they are finally alone, but this... Anyway, I obeyed (of course) and soon I was standing in front of him, totally naked. He had never seen me naked before, nor had any other man. He told me that he wanted to start disciplining me right there and then, because he wanted me to be a submissive wife right from the start. What could I do, other than obey him? He was my husband, after all. He ordered me to lay across a chair that stood by the end of the bed. And then it started... He must have whipped me at least twenty times when he stopped and said: "I think that's enough for now." He told me to get up and lay on the bed. I was sore, of course, but I obeyed. He started to undress and came over to me. I am sure I don't need to tell you more :-)
ReplyDeleteAs I mentioned earlier, we have been married for two years. Today, my husband told me he wanted to take the disciplining a little further. Now he also wants me to have corner time for an hour every day. And I have to be naked. I am not allowed to keep myself occupied with anything when I am standing there. And I am supposed to endure this every day...
ReplyDeleteActually I should like to hear more, not about your spanking or sex after it, but whether you found it alright - and why you did, as I must assume since you haven't left. Personally I think it's alright to spank your wife - but not without a good reason. :-)
DeleteI am sorry, I now see that I wrote "comer" time, but I of course meant to write "corner" time! :-)
ReplyDeleteCORNER time!:-)
ReplyDeleteI wish my husband would spank me as he sees fit. He does not. How do I get him to do it often and hard? I really grave it...
ReplyDeleteI wish my husband would spank me as he sees fit. He does not. How do I get him to do it often and hard? I really grave it...
ReplyDeleteI think the idea of ever hitting your wife is really bad---You will think I ma crazy but for drinking too much (not drunk) she will spank my bare butt when I get home Its never a surprise I know I got it coming
ReplyDeleteno argument from me I have no problem with taking a deserved spanking from y wife--the idea of ever striking her in any way is revolting
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