Monday, July 29, 2013
Long post - rambling
So here I am! Again! I hope everyone is doing good!
Over the last week or so I think we figured out that we fit in with not only LDD/ TTWD but also D/s....
I am the one doing a lot of research on things and my loving owner reads them and applies it as he sees fit.
He bought a thick spoon about 5 days ago and that spoon hurts!
I got the worse spanking I think Ive ever had a few days ago. I had a bad attitude and was just being disrespectful. Though I did get all my chores done that day because I knew I was in trouble from the night before. The closet is usually where I am disciplined in, but he decided we needed more privacy for this spanking. He told me were going to the basement, and I knew that wasn't good! He had already told me that I was getting a sound discipline, and again I knew I had it coming.
We went down to the basement and he told me to strip and took me over his knee and gave me a long hard warm up with the brush. Then he made me stand up and bend over the chair and then he took his new favorite spanking implement and wore my butt out! It hurt so bad!
Then we came up stairs where I was made to strip again for corner time.
This is where we practice submission and obedience. (Submission and obedience is after all what everything stems from in our lifestyle) I am told to stand still and not move and let him touch me anywhere and however he wants. (Obedience - "you are going be a good girl and not move? Do you want to make me happy? Then don't move" Submission - letting go of pride and dignity and letting him touch me where ever and how ever he wants, which also reminds me that I am his) But if I disobey and squirm even a little I get spanked.
Well that night while in the corner I got whipped with the belt twice for squirming when he touched me ( yes in vulnerable places - places that make me lose my pride ) Finally I was able to let go of my pride and let him touch me and belong to him without moving. When we do this as part of discipline, maintenance, role affirmation, I always end up getting spanked because it takes a lot to let go of that pride and dignity and give it away to my owner.
Even though I know he loves me and trust him we are living in a world that women are taught that is horrible to "obey" anyone, to have a head of the household and be in submission.
Are there other ways for submission? I'm sure there are, but in this kind of situation it is highly effective for us to take away pride and attitude and walls. Vulnerability needs to set in.
Spankings hurt and are humiliating! In our lifestyle we feel and we have seen that humiliation is a big key in DD -D/s loving marriage we have. To be truly owned you can not have any prideful tendencies as most women do, and having that pride takes you away from submission and in turn obedience.
My owner also decided the other day due to bring haughty and a bad attitude
(Which I did) that he was going to start using a new position. I hate, hate it!!!
A day or so ago I was mouthy and had an attitude again (that's why we have maintenance because I am as most women are, quick to revert back or slip up and usually when I slip up and I'm called out on it, I get mad and it escalates from there) and he pulled me in the closet. My clothes were removed and the next words out of his mouth horrified me! "Bend over and grab your ankles" I was shocked and humiliated! I was resistant but there was no getting out of it. So I reached down for my ankles then my owner reached down and made me spread my legs. I was horrified because I was in an embarrassing position, he could see everything and nothing is left to the imagination. He gave me a few good hard smacks with the spoon and then lectured me about my attitude and that I belong to him. Then he proceeded with the "submission and obedience" session we do.
I hate corner time! (Either in the corner or the new found "bend over and grab your ankles") It is as embarrassing, if not more embarrassing than when I'm spanked! Both are horrible, yet understandably needed.
Being in a truly submissive state makes a woman feel truly like she owned by the man she loves and who loves her.
Submission either by want or by force IS erotic! Yes it is discipline, and spankings hurt badly, its embarrassing and humiliating, and it IS for bad behavior or role affirmation, but regardless of the reason it draws the husband and wife closer. The husband is SHOWING you his authority of you by his power. The bond is so much stronger. I know for any discipline I receive, I hate it and everything that goes with it. I hate it early on in the day when Ive done something and I know Im getting a spanking and corner time when my owner gets home. However 99% of the time after Discipline or reinforcement I feel better, I feel closer to my owner. But by being submissive it draws out more of the woman's softer side, her feminine side, the side of her that is submissive to her owner that she shows respect, obedience, and submission to. That is what makes it erotic, that closeness you feel and giving yourself over to your owner in heart and body, knowing that he knows you inside and out.
From my research is not uncommon for women to get "wet" from discipline even when their butt is on fire and they are so embarrassed by the position that are in and they just want to hide in a hole somewhere. I know I do and that in of itself is so, so, so humiliating. My owner can see and feel it and it embarrasses me so much! He won't let me wipe myself off, he takes a cloth and wipes me because its part of the discipline. Again, it's part of taking that rotten attitude away, taking that pride away by reminding me that everything I have and my body belongs to him. Now there is nothing wrong with pride, it just doesn't need to come with attitude and towards your owner.
With all that being said, I am very strong willed, a loud mouth, hard headed and don't listen according to my owner. I know he has his hands full with me! You would think with all the spankings and corner time of embarrassment I would learn, it would be a deterrent from my rotten attitude and my sassy mouth. I think at times it is, because I do think sometimes before I speak, even though he doesn't think so, but other times I fly off the handle, I don't care and I get this "whatever" attitude. At that point I realized I crossed a line and I know I'm in trouble so I'm like "so what". Or one of the biggest things I do, and I don't know how my owner will fix this issue is that I question everything he tells me to do or not do. Everything! Plus I grew up in a house and for a good part of our marriage being allowed to get attitude, get my way, be sarcastic, and use a nasty tone of voice, and say what I wanted to say. There are just some things that are part of my personality. My owner says he is going to fix that. LOL
We have only been with this lifestyle maybe 6 months and hubby went from scared to spank me and backing down from me and my attitude and only giving me 4 little pops with the spoon to a man who has fully embraced this lifestyle, a man who doesn't put up with any crap and gives me to do list that has to be done, rules, and will redden my butt so bad and put me in corner time and shows me his authority over me. He shows me that I belong to him, and that I'm allowed to be a strong woman with life but when its all said and done all decisions and how things are done, my well-being, and my body is his to do as he wishes.
For me being a "brat" my entire life, this is taken some getting used to, hence why I always in trouble. (I can't catch a break because if I'm not in trouble for bad behavior, or not showing respect.... So forth and so on.... There is role affirmation of maintenance)
I wish we would have found this lifestyle early on in our marriage! It has made us closer! It has made life easier. You can't have two people running a household. One has to run it and the other do as they are told to make everything run easier in life.