We hit a bad spot in our marriage that almost left us in a divorce and me and him almost cheating on each other. You see I've always been bossy, and need to have things my way. I never mean to be selfish, but I stay in control and want to do things a certain way. However at same time I want to be told what to do, dominated, and have someone take care of me. At the time my husband didn't do that. I felt like I could walk all over him, and I did. I wanted to know there is someone that is bigger, stronger, in control, and can handle my stubborn attitude. I wanted to know there is someone that will say "No, you can't do that" or "Don't talk to me like that" and wasn't afraid to back it up with a spanking if I didn't listen, even by force if needed if I decided to fight. I needed and longed for someone that would protect me from everything in this world, including myself, someone that loved me enough. That is what my Owner/HOH has become! He is not the boy I married, he is now THE MAN I married! :)
2.) What do you most often call your HOH/Spanker? (Sir, Master, etc.)
Owner at different times, but mostly his name. However when he is disciplining me or maintenance he makes sure that I say "Yes Sir" and he repeats and makes sure I acknowledge that he is my owner.
3.) What does your HOH/Spanker most often call you? (Young Lady, Girl, etc)
My girl, and good girl. (when I'm good)
4.) We're building a big spanko bonfire, which one implement are you bringing to toss in?
Either the belt or the thick wooden spoon he has.
5.) We all know how many punishments there are to choose from; spanking, lecturing, corner time, etc.. but what about rewards? Do you have a favorite 'reward' that is used? If not, what's something you'd like used as a reward?
I don't need a "reward" because the "reward" is that I have the man I've needed my entire life, and with DD I become the woman (lady, girl) he needs that respects him and it gives our relationship a whole new meaning. That is our reward.
6.) What's that one phrase, that when it's used, you know you're in trouble?
He hasn't come up with one yet. Usually its just a given that I've crossed a line and later I am going to be in the closet, in the garage in the car, or in the basement.
He has started saying "we will talk about this later" jokingly and that is suppose to mean that I will be getting spanked or disciplined in some form. However he has never acted on that yet.
7.) What's something you'd like to cross off your spanking bucket list? Being shy is not an option here people. ;)
I don't have a spanking bucket list, however I am worried one day he will get a leather belt or bigger paddle, or if I really, really, really cross a line use a non spanking discipline that will totally humiliate me. (He has said he has no intentions of doing that but nothing is off the table)
8.) Someone comes to you, and says they just started practicing domestic discipline. What's the biggest piece of advice you can give them?
To go with it! Enjoy it! Enjoy the reward it brings. For the Man to be FIRM and consistent! For the wife to be submissive as hard as it may be. Believe me, I know! I get plenty of spankings when we do our "submission exercise" if you will.
9.) Where is the craziest place you've been spanked?
I guess in the garage bent over the car? Not crazy! He has swatted my butt in public kinda playing and kinda being serious. Kinda embarrassing! LOL
10.) We talked about a spanking bucket list, now let's get a little more into it.. what about a BDSM style bucket list? What's something you'd like to cross off of that?
We are not into BDSM.
11.) Is there a punishment you thought you'd never try, but ended up trying and finding effective?
Corner time totally nude. Or when he tells me no panties! I never thought that wearing no panties at his demand would accomplish anything, but it does. Sometimes he will tell me no panties just because and there is no reason other than that's what he wants and it keeps me thinking about him. The simple fact of just obeying and submission. At the same time he has used it as discipline before. He sent me a text and told me to take my panties off and leave them off until certain chores were done. To make sure I listened he had me take a picture of my panties that I had taken off.
12.) What is something you wish you knew before you started DD/TTWD?
How much closer it would make us. How it would make me soft, gentle, feminine, submissive and give the respect to my husband he deserves and that I would see him in such control and him being a true MAN!
13.) If you could take a break from one rule, for one week, which rule would it be?
That I can have a few glasses of wine when I want and not have to ask first.
14.) This might sound like a no brainer at first, but really think about it. If you could only have one sort of spanking in your dynamic, would you rather it be discipline or fun?
I'd choose discipline. The discipline satisfies an emotional and psychological need of mine, and in turn makes our marriage happier and gives my husband the control he should have in our marriage.
15.) If your HOH/Spanker messed up, and offered to let you spank them, would you? Why/Why not?
No way. I think it would leave me unsettled and feeling "off." Even if he messed up and I shot off at the mouth about it, I would expect him to discipline me for disrespect even though he messed up.
16.) What is your favorite form of aftercare?
17.) How was DD/spanking brought up to you, or how did you bring it up to your partner?
Its something I read about many, many years ago and my HOH was not interested at that point. I don't think he realized that we needed it and I didn't either to the extent we did. But after we almost ended in divorce I brought it back to his attention and we went for it.
18.) If your spanker could use only one implement from here on out, what would they use?
Wooden paddle or belt...it's a toss up.
19.) Do you have a favorite pair of panties to wear when you know you're going to be spanked? If so, what are they?
I'm not allowed to wear clothes when I'm being disciplined. He either makes me undress or he undresses me.
20.) Unfortunately/fortunately (depending on how you look at it) mind reading hasn't yet been perfected. What's something you want your HOH/Dom/Spanker to know? (For example, don't be afraid to spank harder, or something along those lines.) Don't be afraid, spill!
I know you do this because you love me, and I don't know if I'll ever be able to tell you really how much that means to me. Always be firm with me, and don't be afraid to make me cry. I need your firmness and to know I can not walk all over you. And if I do you have no issue with beating my butt and if I fight you on it, forcibly spanking me.
*Bonus Question (just because it's fun)- Is there a picture (spanking, dd, Ds, etc related) that you just really love? If so, let's see it!*