What are your thoughts on it? What do you and your HOH do for maintenance if you do it?
Occasionally we do maintenance, however I personally think it should be done more often to keep me in a better frame of mind. I know there are some cons to doing it but personally I feel the pros out number the cons. HOH does it when he feels the need. I personally feel it should be done more just because I know how I feel.
I feel it serves so many good purposes, even though I hate it at the same time. Sounds like I'm speaking out of both sides of my mouth, huh? Yes spank me and put me in my place, but I hate it also. Yes, put me in corner time and help me stay submissive, but don't touch me! Crazy, huh?
BDSM I/We have NO, NONE whatsoever of any interest in that. We are firmly DD, TiH, CDD, and at times, though not often D/s with just the way some things come up.
I feel that maintenance is a reminder to stay submissive, to remind me who is in charge, role affirmation. If not attitude sneaks up and then I end up with discipline. I think a few times a week is good, even if there is discipline involved, well then you have both because you knew it was maintenance, yet you earned discipline from not listening or breaking rules or sassing/talking back.
I think by nature us women have a need and want to be submissive to a powerful, strong man that can handle us. However we need constant reminders/role affirmation because in this society we are taught so differently! "Women stand up to your husband" - "Women you are equal to your husband" - "Women don't let anyone tell you what to do" - "Women pitch a fit to get what you want" those are the things we hear or see on TV shows, commercials or even in various households among family and friends.
I feel maintenance should cover both a spanking and corner time. Of course a less amount of time with each since it is just maintenance, but that is my views on it. However at times my maintenance does turn to discipline. So I dunno!
Thoughts? What do you do in your marriage? I have already addressed this some in a few emails to other DDers.
HOH feels a bit differently about this than I do.