I'm here and I don't know what to say.
This lifestyle works for us! Every time we implement it, it works!
Then somehow we get off track.
When we do I start feeling unbalanced. I find myself not paying attention to the rules that were ONCE there, and letting my mind wonder and not respecting my HOH as much.
I don't like this.
I have brought it back up to my HOH but I hate being the one to bring it up. :(
Does anyone feel the need to have TiH, DD, CDD, LDD lifestyle to feel like you BELONG to your HOH?
Maybe it's because of some past, recent issues I have been dealing with but I need that foundation, structure, feeling secure and like I belong to someone and they are going to protect me.
I have done so much research on this lifestyle and even though we KNOW it works for us, why can't we stick to it?
We do good for months and then slip.
I was just about to write an ebook on it to help other couples starting out on this lifestyle, and that is still what I want to do.
With the above questions, how do you feel about the feeling of belonging to him?
~Jane (Sorry I have been MIA)
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Thursday, May 29, 2014
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
TMI? Also update! :)
So here is a TMI question! :)
What does your HOH do when you are on your period?
HOHs feel free to way in on this subject.
Does your HOH make YOU write down your rules you broke or issues you and your HOH have discussed that are not acceptable behavior for the week? If so, is discipline administered all at the same time or does he spread it out over the following week? Or just lump them all together?
Or does your HOH write them down?
Or does your HOH still discipline you while you are on your period? (spanking, and corner time, all while naked?) Or over panties? Or panties just pulled down slightly?
If so, does he make you still undress?
What if you are wearing a pad?
What is the standard procedure in your home for how your HOH handles it.
I am curious to see how other HOHs handle this.
On a brighter note, hubby said I was doing so good with my submission exercises but he was going to have to find something else creative to "test" my submission. YIKES! But I'm glad that I have been doing good! I don't think he REALLY meant it, but rather joking around.
Also, FINALLY, FINALLY, FINALLY during one of our submission exercises while he was touching me he rubbed/slid his fingers over my ummmhummm 'rear' hole and I was able to stand still. He did it on 2 occasions during that one submission exercise and I stood still both times. I am so private about that area, that hole I always claim is mine! LOL (Readers who follow my blog know my issues with this!) After I let him finally touch me there and not move, I felt so much like I belonged to him. I finally gave every inch of me to him. Knowing that he touched me there brought me to another place in submission. I can not put into words how it made me feel. I was embarrassed while he had his fingers there, but also felt small and vulnerable to him, I felt his power and the fact that he owns every inch of me and it made me love him and want to submit to him even more. It is a matter of trust. Before he slid his fingers there he asked me if I trusted him, and I said yes, and he reminded me that he would never do anything to hurt me. I have to say that was a very powerful moment for me. It was very embarrassing, intimate, taking of my pride, the most submission I have felt, feelings of vulnerability, the feeling of his presence of power over me, making me feel soft, making me feminine, trusting him with every inch of my body, protected, loved, cherished, and owned. So many mixed, wild, emotions and feelings from one (ok 2 that time) touch of such an intimate part of the body, and to me being able to stand still and give that over to my husband is the ultimate act of submission and trust. (That is NOT to say that when he tries it again I will be able to be still, it will take time because it has taken a long time for these submission exercises for me to finally stand still and submit to him, but when I finally stop fighting him on it and let go the feelings is overwhelming, and you feel relieved)
However with that being said, last night when I was getting a spanking for a rule I broke, when he was rubbing my butt to see how hot it was he pulled my checks apart some and I told him to stop, and well, ummmm, not only did he do it again to prove a point, but I also managed to get my butt beat more. :( /sigh Sooooo while I felt very good about the submission exercise, I mean VERY good about it, I guess that is something we still have to work on. But that submission exercise and letting him finally put his finger there that one night was a huge step in the right place! Submission all the way!
I hope everyone is having a fantastic Tuesday!
~Jane
What does your HOH do when you are on your period?
HOHs feel free to way in on this subject.
Does your HOH make YOU write down your rules you broke or issues you and your HOH have discussed that are not acceptable behavior for the week? If so, is discipline administered all at the same time or does he spread it out over the following week? Or just lump them all together?
Or does your HOH write them down?
Or does your HOH still discipline you while you are on your period? (spanking, and corner time, all while naked?) Or over panties? Or panties just pulled down slightly?
If so, does he make you still undress?
What if you are wearing a pad?
What is the standard procedure in your home for how your HOH handles it.
I am curious to see how other HOHs handle this.
On a brighter note, hubby said I was doing so good with my submission exercises but he was going to have to find something else creative to "test" my submission. YIKES! But I'm glad that I have been doing good! I don't think he REALLY meant it, but rather joking around.
Also, FINALLY, FINALLY, FINALLY during one of our submission exercises while he was touching me he rubbed/slid his fingers over my ummmhummm 'rear' hole and I was able to stand still. He did it on 2 occasions during that one submission exercise and I stood still both times. I am so private about that area, that hole I always claim is mine! LOL (Readers who follow my blog know my issues with this!) After I let him finally touch me there and not move, I felt so much like I belonged to him. I finally gave every inch of me to him. Knowing that he touched me there brought me to another place in submission. I can not put into words how it made me feel. I was embarrassed while he had his fingers there, but also felt small and vulnerable to him, I felt his power and the fact that he owns every inch of me and it made me love him and want to submit to him even more. It is a matter of trust. Before he slid his fingers there he asked me if I trusted him, and I said yes, and he reminded me that he would never do anything to hurt me. I have to say that was a very powerful moment for me. It was very embarrassing, intimate, taking of my pride, the most submission I have felt, feelings of vulnerability, the feeling of his presence of power over me, making me feel soft, making me feminine, trusting him with every inch of my body, protected, loved, cherished, and owned. So many mixed, wild, emotions and feelings from one (ok 2 that time) touch of such an intimate part of the body, and to me being able to stand still and give that over to my husband is the ultimate act of submission and trust. (That is NOT to say that when he tries it again I will be able to be still, it will take time because it has taken a long time for these submission exercises for me to finally stand still and submit to him, but when I finally stop fighting him on it and let go the feelings is overwhelming, and you feel relieved)
However with that being said, last night when I was getting a spanking for a rule I broke, when he was rubbing my butt to see how hot it was he pulled my checks apart some and I told him to stop, and well, ummmm, not only did he do it again to prove a point, but I also managed to get my butt beat more. :( /sigh Sooooo while I felt very good about the submission exercise, I mean VERY good about it, I guess that is something we still have to work on. But that submission exercise and letting him finally put his finger there that one night was a huge step in the right place! Submission all the way!
I hope everyone is having a fantastic Tuesday!
~Jane
Thursday, February 20, 2014
We test our HOH sometimes to see if they will stand their ground, but sometimes I think we are testing ourselves.
Dear Readers, (a little different opening, huh? :) )
Most of us women in a DD marriage, (TiH) find at some point or another we test our HOH to see really who is STILL in control. We want them to stand up to us and not let us walk all over them.
However I was thinking about this also, I believe at times I am really testing myself to see if I will actually submit in the quiet, sweet way that I should.
There are times that I want to fight him on it.
The way he has me positioned most of the time is on all fours with my legs spread and butt pushed out some. I admit that sometimes, more often than not, I start arching my back trying to pull my butt down so it isn't just out there.
At first its about the pain of the spanking but then at some point during the spanking I tell myself that I need to stop moving and be still and submit the way I should. Granted this doesn't happen all the time.
There have been times that after a spanking or corner time that I actually went back and asked him to redo it because I didn't feel like I submitted the way I should have, because I was either moving or giving him a hard time in some form. The next time he does the repeat I try my hardest to be still and submit 110%! I try not to move or anything.
So I do think at times I a testing myself by testing him. If I test him and he bites back I know what I got coming to me and it is a way for me to see if I am going to submit quietly the way I should.
We have blanket consent so it doesn't really matter, but I want to submit the way I should.
Just something interesting I thought about and wanted to share.
Jane
Most of us women in a DD marriage, (TiH) find at some point or another we test our HOH to see really who is STILL in control. We want them to stand up to us and not let us walk all over them.
However I was thinking about this also, I believe at times I am really testing myself to see if I will actually submit in the quiet, sweet way that I should.
There are times that I want to fight him on it.
The way he has me positioned most of the time is on all fours with my legs spread and butt pushed out some. I admit that sometimes, more often than not, I start arching my back trying to pull my butt down so it isn't just out there.
At first its about the pain of the spanking but then at some point during the spanking I tell myself that I need to stop moving and be still and submit the way I should. Granted this doesn't happen all the time.
There have been times that after a spanking or corner time that I actually went back and asked him to redo it because I didn't feel like I submitted the way I should have, because I was either moving or giving him a hard time in some form. The next time he does the repeat I try my hardest to be still and submit 110%! I try not to move or anything.
So I do think at times I a testing myself by testing him. If I test him and he bites back I know what I got coming to me and it is a way for me to see if I am going to submit quietly the way I should.
We have blanket consent so it doesn't really matter, but I want to submit the way I should.
Just something interesting I thought about and wanted to share.
Jane
Friday, February 14, 2014
Big trouble tonight!
I hope y'all had a wonderful last few days! How is everyone?
Us over on the east coast got slammed with Pax! Ouch! But all is well!
Well I am in big trouble tonight. I really screwed up! :( I feel so bad about it! Last night I sent my HOH a text because I was aggravated saying "what the hell" and he didn't respond to it. So, I didn't think much of it. Well, this morning I didn't get up when I was suppose to. Later in the morning today I get a text saying tonight I have 10 minutes coming, spanking and corner time due to my text last night and not getting up this morning. :(
So now here I sit dreading and thankful for the discipline I have coming. It is deserved, but I dread it also. :(
I sent him a text about how sorry I was/am and I will submit (obviously) to anything and everything because I deserve it and have it coming. I can't wait to get the slate clean and we can have a good weekend.
Jane
Monday, February 10, 2014
Lets talk........................
Lets talk maintenance.
What are your thoughts on it? What do you and your HOH do for maintenance if you do it?
Occasionally we do maintenance, however I personally think it should be done more often to keep me in a better frame of mind. I know there are some cons to doing it but personally I feel the pros out number the cons. HOH does it when he feels the need. I personally feel it should be done more just because I know how I feel.
I feel it serves so many good purposes, even though I hate it at the same time. Sounds like I'm speaking out of both sides of my mouth, huh? Yes spank me and put me in my place, but I hate it also. Yes, put me in corner time and help me stay submissive, but don't touch me! Crazy, huh?
BDSM I/We have NO, NONE whatsoever of any interest in that. We are firmly DD, TiH, CDD, and at times, though not often D/s with just the way some things come up.
I feel that maintenance is a reminder to stay submissive, to remind me who is in charge, role affirmation. If not attitude sneaks up and then I end up with discipline. I think a few times a week is good, even if there is discipline involved, well then you have both because you knew it was maintenance, yet you earned discipline from not listening or breaking rules or sassing/talking back.
I think by nature us women have a need and want to be submissive to a powerful, strong man that can handle us. However we need constant reminders/role affirmation because in this society we are taught so differently! "Women stand up to your husband" - "Women you are equal to your husband" - "Women don't let anyone tell you what to do" - "Women pitch a fit to get what you want" those are the things we hear or see on TV shows, commercials or even in various households among family and friends.
I feel maintenance should cover both a spanking and corner time. Of course a less amount of time with each since it is just maintenance, but that is my views on it. However at times my maintenance does turn to discipline. So I dunno!
Thoughts? What do you do in your marriage? I have already addressed this some in a few emails to other DDers.
HOH feels a bit differently about this than I do.
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What are your thoughts on it? What do you and your HOH do for maintenance if you do it?
Occasionally we do maintenance, however I personally think it should be done more often to keep me in a better frame of mind. I know there are some cons to doing it but personally I feel the pros out number the cons. HOH does it when he feels the need. I personally feel it should be done more just because I know how I feel.
I feel it serves so many good purposes, even though I hate it at the same time. Sounds like I'm speaking out of both sides of my mouth, huh? Yes spank me and put me in my place, but I hate it also. Yes, put me in corner time and help me stay submissive, but don't touch me! Crazy, huh?
BDSM I/We have NO, NONE whatsoever of any interest in that. We are firmly DD, TiH, CDD, and at times, though not often D/s with just the way some things come up.
I feel that maintenance is a reminder to stay submissive, to remind me who is in charge, role affirmation. If not attitude sneaks up and then I end up with discipline. I think a few times a week is good, even if there is discipline involved, well then you have both because you knew it was maintenance, yet you earned discipline from not listening or breaking rules or sassing/talking back.
I think by nature us women have a need and want to be submissive to a powerful, strong man that can handle us. However we need constant reminders/role affirmation because in this society we are taught so differently! "Women stand up to your husband" - "Women you are equal to your husband" - "Women don't let anyone tell you what to do" - "Women pitch a fit to get what you want" those are the things we hear or see on TV shows, commercials or even in various households among family and friends.
I feel maintenance should cover both a spanking and corner time. Of course a less amount of time with each since it is just maintenance, but that is my views on it. However at times my maintenance does turn to discipline. So I dunno!
Thoughts? What do you do in your marriage? I have already addressed this some in a few emails to other DDers.
HOH feels a bit differently about this than I do.
Also, as I have mentioned in a few emails to other DDers. What do you do if your HOH is not strict enough? I'm not saying my HOH is not strict enough by any means! LOL (HOH if you are reading this which I know you do sometimes - YOU are strict! LOL I ♥ You) I'm curious to see how you ladies handle that? HOH makes the rules, but does he enforce them without any slack? Do you wish he was stricter? Or was firmer?
What other things does your HOH do for discipline? Or Role Affirmation to keep you in a submissive state?
We have done:
Spanking of course
Corner time
Corner time always has submission exercises
Writing lines
No panties for the day
A few times disciplining me in a different position that exposes more than I would like
Ok! Hugs to all my DDers!
Jane
PS
If you do not agree with any of the above, that is more than fine. Please refrain from posting ridiculous comments here. If you don't agree you may simply put that but you don't need to go into the personal attacks because that is just not called for. Thanks!
Sunday, February 9, 2014
Did you have a good weekend?
First thing first! I want to thank the few of you that have sent me some very kind helpful emails! :) I will be responding soon!
I hope your family has had a fabulous weekend. We did!
Sadly tomorrow is Monday and HOH has to go back to work. :(
Question, do any of your write poetry? I am working on one about DD life. I will post it when it's done. I am going to be including it in the ebook!
We have company coming over in a bit and hubby has already threatened to take me back to our bedroom and spank me if I get to a point that he doesn't like. Yikes!! Well, that ain't going to happen! Ha! I'm not getting in trouble and take the chance of them hearing!
Well, another beautiful weekend!
((Hugs))
Jane
I hope your family has had a fabulous weekend. We did!
Sadly tomorrow is Monday and HOH has to go back to work. :(
Question, do any of your write poetry? I am working on one about DD life. I will post it when it's done. I am going to be including it in the ebook!
We have company coming over in a bit and hubby has already threatened to take me back to our bedroom and spank me if I get to a point that he doesn't like. Yikes!! Well, that ain't going to happen! Ha! I'm not getting in trouble and take the chance of them hearing!
Well, another beautiful weekend!
((Hugs))
Jane
Thursday, February 6, 2014
I am dreading tonight. :(
I am so dreading tonight!
As I posted below I have 5 or 7 minutes, I can't remember of a spanking and corner time. :(
It amazes me how far we have come with this lifestyle and it just being the normal.
It went from a few swats with a small, thin wooden spoon, to minutes and minutes of me on all 4 getting my rear wore out with a thick wooden spoon or whip thingy, or his belt. He has gone from barely tapping my rear with that small spoon in the beginning to the point of seeing my butt glow because he knows why he is doing it, and lets just say he doesn't swat anymore. He wears my butt out! The rear is a place meant for spankings and he doesn't hold back that much.
Plus the dreaded corner time I posted about below. :(
Tonight is going to be horrible! :( But I will submit and I know I have it coming. I also know he loves me and he is doing it out of love and after we will snuggle and watch TV together with the HOH who protects me, loves me, and will not let me run all over him. My man who takes charge and is not afraid to put me in my place.
I love him so much! (But dreading tonight's discipline!)
I will post back tomorrow!
~ Jane
As I posted below I have 5 or 7 minutes, I can't remember of a spanking and corner time. :(
It amazes me how far we have come with this lifestyle and it just being the normal.
It went from a few swats with a small, thin wooden spoon, to minutes and minutes of me on all 4 getting my rear wore out with a thick wooden spoon or whip thingy, or his belt. He has gone from barely tapping my rear with that small spoon in the beginning to the point of seeing my butt glow because he knows why he is doing it, and lets just say he doesn't swat anymore. He wears my butt out! The rear is a place meant for spankings and he doesn't hold back that much.
Plus the dreaded corner time I posted about below. :(
Tonight is going to be horrible! :( But I will submit and I know I have it coming. I also know he loves me and he is doing it out of love and after we will snuggle and watch TV together with the HOH who protects me, loves me, and will not let me run all over him. My man who takes charge and is not afraid to put me in my place.
I love him so much! (But dreading tonight's discipline!)
I will post back tomorrow!
~ Jane
Tuesday, January 7, 2014
Long blog, sorry.
So I posted a few days ago about what was coming up today, "the big spanking" for disrespect. He wanted to wait on Tuesday (today) because of my period. Well I talked to HOH a few days ago and asked him if he would please break it up over a few days, and he said he would think about it. He finally told me that he would break it up for me. That disrespect the other day earned me 21 minutes, and not an easy 21 minutes. (that's not including anything I might get in trouble for) He told me I wouldn't be able to sit for a week. (That was when he was going to do it all on Tuesday.)
Plus, this spanking has been coming for a few days from when I acted disrespectful, and I feel bad for the disrespect. It has just been lingering over my head, I felt/feel bad, and I needed to submit. I needed some sort of discipline to start easing the guilt for my actions, to show him that I respect him and his power over me. So I sent him some text messages explaining that. I told him I would submit to any discipline action, no matter how humiliating and to please not wait until Tuesday.
So last night I was working out and wasn't home, and that part was fine. However we also had unexpected/expected (at the last minute) company last night. So I come home, still sweaty and my back end cold and instantly he takes me into the other room and knew it was for some sort of discipline. I kept telling him I needed a shower first and he said he knew that. That didn't stop him, because of my text messages and also due to the circumstances of having company, he was going to go through with giving me some sort of discipline. Which I am grateful to him for. He told me to pull down my pants and panties ( because of limited time he didn't make me fully undress) and bend over. (which I did, there was something in front of me to grab) He took that wooden spoon and for 2 minutes gave me a good, hard, solid, deserved spanking. I think about 30 seconds into it I was crying because it hurt. I kept reminding myself that it was deserved and it was for my disrespect and he didn't deserve that from me and that this is some of my discipline for it.
So that took 2 minutes off of my 21 so far for the week. So if I can manage to keep my mouth shut and follow the rules I have 19 minutes left for the disrespect.
I have to say that I truly, with all my heart, love our DD, TiH, TTWD lifestyle/relationship.
It changes who each of us are in our relationship. He is more dominant now than ever, (even before we fell off the wagon for a few months and restarted a few weeks ago) and I am more submissive and each day we are growing more and more into our roles. We know our roles, we know who we are in our marriage. It makes for a peaceful household, but also makes up so much more closer.
Yes, should I be submissive anyway? Do I need the threaten of a spanking or whatever humiliating discipline he comes up with to "fit the infraction?" Do I need this lifestyle to respect him? The answer to these questions are yes, and no.
Yes I want to be submissive, but no its not easy. Today we live in a world that women have to act equal and we simply are not. That doesn't mean we are "lower" or a doormat, it means that the HOH makes the rules and we abide by them.
Do I need a threaten of a spanking? Yes. Because again we live in a world that forces it down your throat to not answer to anyone. So yes I need the threat of a spanking or some sort of discipline to keeps me in check reminding me that I do have someone to answer to, and that is my HOH. I know my husband loves me enough to make sure that happens.
I respect my HOH with or without this lifestyle. However, my respect for my HOH grew by leaps and bounds when we started this lifestyle a year ago. Then when we fell off the wagon for a couple of months, it was still there but not as strong, but still there nonetheless. Now that we are back full force with our lifestyle, and that respect for him as a man, my owner, the HOH is deeper and stronger than it has EVER been.
I love him more and more, and feel closer to him than ever. I am his, and he takes care of me. He loves me for everything that I am, and I love him! I am not easy to handle, I am strong willed, sarcastic, and sassy, so his job is not easy, but he does it.
So tonight it's 5-7 minutes of spanking for just that, and I hope I don't get into any other trouble or it will be longer, and this time we don't have any company so I know it will be worse. I know it will be the entire spanking process, undressing and getting into position.
While I am dreading it big time, (so dreading it) I am also thankful for it because I want this discipline to go away along with that episode of horrible disrespect. Once the final 21 minutes is over this week then I can stop feeling guilty about acting horrible to my HOH........until next time I run off at the mouth.
I am the sort of person that runs off at the mouth first before thinking and that is what gets me in trouble, along with time management. With that being said, I need to close out this blog before I get into more trouble.
~Jane
Plus, this spanking has been coming for a few days from when I acted disrespectful, and I feel bad for the disrespect. It has just been lingering over my head, I felt/feel bad, and I needed to submit. I needed some sort of discipline to start easing the guilt for my actions, to show him that I respect him and his power over me. So I sent him some text messages explaining that. I told him I would submit to any discipline action, no matter how humiliating and to please not wait until Tuesday.
So last night I was working out and wasn't home, and that part was fine. However we also had unexpected/expected (at the last minute) company last night. So I come home, still sweaty and my back end cold and instantly he takes me into the other room and knew it was for some sort of discipline. I kept telling him I needed a shower first and he said he knew that. That didn't stop him, because of my text messages and also due to the circumstances of having company, he was going to go through with giving me some sort of discipline. Which I am grateful to him for. He told me to pull down my pants and panties ( because of limited time he didn't make me fully undress) and bend over. (which I did, there was something in front of me to grab) He took that wooden spoon and for 2 minutes gave me a good, hard, solid, deserved spanking. I think about 30 seconds into it I was crying because it hurt. I kept reminding myself that it was deserved and it was for my disrespect and he didn't deserve that from me and that this is some of my discipline for it.
So that took 2 minutes off of my 21 so far for the week. So if I can manage to keep my mouth shut and follow the rules I have 19 minutes left for the disrespect.
I have to say that I truly, with all my heart, love our DD, TiH, TTWD lifestyle/relationship.
It changes who each of us are in our relationship. He is more dominant now than ever, (even before we fell off the wagon for a few months and restarted a few weeks ago) and I am more submissive and each day we are growing more and more into our roles. We know our roles, we know who we are in our marriage. It makes for a peaceful household, but also makes up so much more closer.
Yes, should I be submissive anyway? Do I need the threaten of a spanking or whatever humiliating discipline he comes up with to "fit the infraction?" Do I need this lifestyle to respect him? The answer to these questions are yes, and no.
Yes I want to be submissive, but no its not easy. Today we live in a world that women have to act equal and we simply are not. That doesn't mean we are "lower" or a doormat, it means that the HOH makes the rules and we abide by them.
Do I need a threaten of a spanking? Yes. Because again we live in a world that forces it down your throat to not answer to anyone. So yes I need the threat of a spanking or some sort of discipline to keeps me in check reminding me that I do have someone to answer to, and that is my HOH. I know my husband loves me enough to make sure that happens.
I respect my HOH with or without this lifestyle. However, my respect for my HOH grew by leaps and bounds when we started this lifestyle a year ago. Then when we fell off the wagon for a couple of months, it was still there but not as strong, but still there nonetheless. Now that we are back full force with our lifestyle, and that respect for him as a man, my owner, the HOH is deeper and stronger than it has EVER been.
I love him more and more, and feel closer to him than ever. I am his, and he takes care of me. He loves me for everything that I am, and I love him! I am not easy to handle, I am strong willed, sarcastic, and sassy, so his job is not easy, but he does it.
So tonight it's 5-7 minutes of spanking for just that, and I hope I don't get into any other trouble or it will be longer, and this time we don't have any company so I know it will be worse. I know it will be the entire spanking process, undressing and getting into position.
While I am dreading it big time, (so dreading it) I am also thankful for it because I want this discipline to go away along with that episode of horrible disrespect. Once the final 21 minutes is over this week then I can stop feeling guilty about acting horrible to my HOH........until next time I run off at the mouth.
I am the sort of person that runs off at the mouth first before thinking and that is what gets me in trouble, along with time management. With that being said, I need to close out this blog before I get into more trouble.
~Jane
Friday, January 3, 2014
What a way to start off the year!
What a way to start the year off! Recently I've gone through a bad event in my life, well I've been short with HOH, and I also started my period which makes me snappy.
Last night he said something in I thought was a mean manner, and I sent him a few text messages that I should not have sent. At the time I knew, but didn't really care because I was pissed off at him. This morning I apologized and he took my apology. I told him that if he considered my text as disprect I would understand.
Well I got an answer back saying that it was disprectful and he also addressed some other things he didn't like that I have been doing. He said when my period is over there will be some consequences.
I know I am in for a hard spanking because his spanking since we recommited to this lifestyle, (as with many, at times you get thrown off with things in life and that's what happened to us and it did cause a lack of connection) have been harder than they were this entire past year. I told him that and he said that since we are in this lifestyle together he is going to make sure he spanks me right. Even his maintence spankings have got a lot harder. So I know next Tuesday I am in for it, BAD.
Now, I just need to make sure that I don't break any rules and I am 100% respectful and nothing else is added onto that. When he spanks me he will stop for a moment and say that was for X,Y, and Z, now this next one is for X, Y, and Z. So they add up!
Any advice to help me through what I think is going to be my worse spanking yet?
I don't know why he is spanking me so much harder now. He said it was because he wanted to spank me right, I guess to make sure I get it through my head and if he is going to do it that he is going to do it right. (he also said that)
Even yesterday I was smarting off a little bit to him while we were in the bathroom and he said "you just don't learn" and grabbed the spoon and swatted my butt a few good hard times.
I guess now for the first time he is really more than ever stepping up to this lifestyle. While he did before, this time it seems to be different. Even just having that small set back for a month or two, for the whole year before that he wasn't as strict as he is being now.
But I must say I am thankful for his new attitude! I told him this is what I wanted and needed from him, and I guess he can see it. I need a man who is not afraid of me and my strong personality. Someone I can't walk all over, someone that won't take crap from me and will hold me accountable, someone who loves me enough to take me in hand and discipline me for breaking rules or to keep us connected. Someone who is willing to take the lead in his household, and make sure I don't try to overstep him and keep me submissive.
Last night he said something in I thought was a mean manner, and I sent him a few text messages that I should not have sent. At the time I knew, but didn't really care because I was pissed off at him. This morning I apologized and he took my apology. I told him that if he considered my text as disprect I would understand.
Well I got an answer back saying that it was disprectful and he also addressed some other things he didn't like that I have been doing. He said when my period is over there will be some consequences.
I know I am in for a hard spanking because his spanking since we recommited to this lifestyle, (as with many, at times you get thrown off with things in life and that's what happened to us and it did cause a lack of connection) have been harder than they were this entire past year. I told him that and he said that since we are in this lifestyle together he is going to make sure he spanks me right. Even his maintence spankings have got a lot harder. So I know next Tuesday I am in for it, BAD.
Now, I just need to make sure that I don't break any rules and I am 100% respectful and nothing else is added onto that. When he spanks me he will stop for a moment and say that was for X,Y, and Z, now this next one is for X, Y, and Z. So they add up!
Any advice to help me through what I think is going to be my worse spanking yet?
I don't know why he is spanking me so much harder now. He said it was because he wanted to spank me right, I guess to make sure I get it through my head and if he is going to do it that he is going to do it right. (he also said that)
Even yesterday I was smarting off a little bit to him while we were in the bathroom and he said "you just don't learn" and grabbed the spoon and swatted my butt a few good hard times.
I guess now for the first time he is really more than ever stepping up to this lifestyle. While he did before, this time it seems to be different. Even just having that small set back for a month or two, for the whole year before that he wasn't as strict as he is being now.
But I must say I am thankful for his new attitude! I told him this is what I wanted and needed from him, and I guess he can see it. I need a man who is not afraid of me and my strong personality. Someone I can't walk all over, someone that won't take crap from me and will hold me accountable, someone who loves me enough to take me in hand and discipline me for breaking rules or to keep us connected. Someone who is willing to take the lead in his household, and make sure I don't try to overstep him and keep me submissive.
Some of us as women with the world we live in seem to think we are equal to men, and we are not. God made it so that men would take care of us and put them in charge of the household, and women to be a compliment to the husband. When a wife steps out of line, or needs an attitude adjustment, I think any husband should be able to take his wife, because they love each other, and set her straight for the peace of the household, his household however he sees fit. A punishment, (discipline) that fits the "crime". My HOH never talks down to me, we do talk about decisions that are made, but in the end it is his final say in what will happen, as it should be. You can not have two people running a household, it just won't work. There will be a power struggle, and how would that work with having peace in the household? It won't.
Have a happy Friday!
~Jane
Have a happy Friday!
~Jane
Thursday, September 19, 2013
Thoughts on the Draw to Domestic Discipline: Why Do I Want to be Punished?
Interesting article I found somewhere that is so informative!
This is told by other women who desire DD that it helped them explain to their husbands why they wanted a DD relationship.
I think the questions "Why would I want this?” and “What is wrong with me?" are very common among those of us who desire domestic discipline.“Why would I want my husband to spank me?”
“Why would I want to spank my wife?”
Often, we women read about men who are "man enough" to stand up to their Subs, and care about them enough to make them behave, to protect their relationship, and to lead. We read about being dominated and many of us think, "Wow, that sounds kind of hot!" We read about men who have no problem taking their girls over their knees and showing them who's boss. And we think..."I want that."
We know that Domestic Discipline goes beyond the bedroom. Although many will admit there is an erotic element to DD, we know that it goes deeper than that. And sometimes, we are unsure as to why we would desire such a dynamic to begin with.
There is peace in submitting to the man you love. Knowing he is in charge and won't let things go astray makes us feel loved. Being spanked is a major display of dominance and submission. Being taken in hand is hot, though being punished still hurts. It's all wrapped up together.
But it's all rooted in our desire to be loved.
Let's take a look at a typical interaction with the average couple, and the same interaction from the Domestic Discipline perspective.
A woman gets into an argument with her husband. She's tired, she's cranky, and she's had a long day. She stomps her foot and slams something on the counter. His temper flares. He says some things he may or may not mean. He tells her he's had it, and he storms out of the house. She feels guilty. She feels abandoned. How could someone who loves her just leave like that? He doesn't have to leave the house to have the same effect. Maybe he's cold to her, or won't talk to her. She still has that feeling of being disconnected, abandoned, even unloved. As time goes on...and it could be hours, or longer...she realizes she's behaved terribly, and she feels guilty. She also feels hurt. What an awful end to an awful day. He comes home and they may or may not make up, but there's a bridge between the two of them. She still feels guilty.
Now, let's take a look at the same scenario with Domestic Discipline. A woman gets into an argument with her husband. She's tired, she's cranky, and she's had an awful day. She finally says something nasty and maybe in a fit of anger she stomps her foot, or slams something on the counter. He calmly and deliberately takes her by the arm, hauls her over his lap, and spanks her soundly. She feels the fight go out of her and has no choice but to submit. She feels humbled. When the fight is no longer in her anymore, he holds her. He tells her he forgives her and loves her. Maybe she feels something in her give way, and she cries. She feels forgiven. She knows he loves her enough to stop the fit, and to restore the peace in their relationship. Later, she thinks about how strong and masculine her husband was, and she realizes not only does she have a new-found respect, but she also finds his manliness more attractive.
Does she actually like to be spanked? Yes and no. Being punished hurts, and the knowledge that she's done something wrong is uncomfortable. We're not talking about “spanking for fun” here, and this is where many who desire Domestic Discipline become confused. Why would someone choose to be punished?
We desire being taken in hand because we want to feel loved, not because we want to be punished. Those who dominate seek to protect and care for their submissive partner, even when that protection means to protect us from ourselves. We want that intimate connection.
This is told by other women who desire DD that it helped them explain to their husbands why they wanted a DD relationship.
I think the questions "Why would I want this?” and “What is wrong with me?" are very common among those of us who desire domestic discipline.“Why would I want my husband to spank me?”
“Why would I want to spank my wife?”
Often, we women read about men who are "man enough" to stand up to their Subs, and care about them enough to make them behave, to protect their relationship, and to lead. We read about being dominated and many of us think, "Wow, that sounds kind of hot!" We read about men who have no problem taking their girls over their knees and showing them who's boss. And we think..."I want that."
We know that Domestic Discipline goes beyond the bedroom. Although many will admit there is an erotic element to DD, we know that it goes deeper than that. And sometimes, we are unsure as to why we would desire such a dynamic to begin with.
There is peace in submitting to the man you love. Knowing he is in charge and won't let things go astray makes us feel loved. Being spanked is a major display of dominance and submission. Being taken in hand is hot, though being punished still hurts. It's all wrapped up together.
But it's all rooted in our desire to be loved.
Let's take a look at a typical interaction with the average couple, and the same interaction from the Domestic Discipline perspective.
A woman gets into an argument with her husband. She's tired, she's cranky, and she's had a long day. She stomps her foot and slams something on the counter. His temper flares. He says some things he may or may not mean. He tells her he's had it, and he storms out of the house. She feels guilty. She feels abandoned. How could someone who loves her just leave like that? He doesn't have to leave the house to have the same effect. Maybe he's cold to her, or won't talk to her. She still has that feeling of being disconnected, abandoned, even unloved. As time goes on...and it could be hours, or longer...she realizes she's behaved terribly, and she feels guilty. She also feels hurt. What an awful end to an awful day. He comes home and they may or may not make up, but there's a bridge between the two of them. She still feels guilty.
Now, let's take a look at the same scenario with Domestic Discipline. A woman gets into an argument with her husband. She's tired, she's cranky, and she's had an awful day. She finally says something nasty and maybe in a fit of anger she stomps her foot, or slams something on the counter. He calmly and deliberately takes her by the arm, hauls her over his lap, and spanks her soundly. She feels the fight go out of her and has no choice but to submit. She feels humbled. When the fight is no longer in her anymore, he holds her. He tells her he forgives her and loves her. Maybe she feels something in her give way, and she cries. She feels forgiven. She knows he loves her enough to stop the fit, and to restore the peace in their relationship. Later, she thinks about how strong and masculine her husband was, and she realizes not only does she have a new-found respect, but she also finds his manliness more attractive.
Does she actually like to be spanked? Yes and no. Being punished hurts, and the knowledge that she's done something wrong is uncomfortable. We're not talking about “spanking for fun” here, and this is where many who desire Domestic Discipline become confused. Why would someone choose to be punished?
We desire being taken in hand because we want to feel loved, not because we want to be punished. Those who dominate seek to protect and care for their submissive partner, even when that protection means to protect us from ourselves. We want that intimate connection.
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Update on TTWD/DD - Thoughts????
We have been very busy lately.
I have been bratting and owner couldn't do anything about it because of our circumstances we've had.
It got to a point the other day that I told him that I was done with DD. Not a good idea! By the time he got home, I was a bit more kind and told him I was sorry, and I was. However, while I craved it, I was also trying to get out of it.
Due to the lack of consistency, even though I said I was sorry, he went through with what he said he was going to do.
So in the closet I go, forced to undress and bend over. We don't usually do over the knee because we don't have the space in our closet, so it's me on the floor on my knees bent over. (There are times that we go outside to the car in our garage and use the back seat and I am bent over his knees that way) He usually spreads my legs and this last time told me I could not arch my back which made my butt stand out more which I hated. 5 minutes of spanking! Then I stand up and he sees I still have an attitude, which I did. I don't know why! We figure its because the longer we go without any discipline or just maintenance my attitude returns and I forget or push to take control. Or its just me simply bratting because I know I need it.
Because of having an attitude still that meant corner time. Again this is where we practice submission and take away my pride. I always end up getting spanked a few times because I can never stay still as he touches me. Its a form of humiliation, not in a bad way, but in a way of remembering that I belong to him and submit to him and obey.
After awhile of me still moving he had me bent back over and spanking my butt again. After that I told him I was ready to try and be still and submit.
I finally stood still and he told me I was being a good girl and "he wants to inspect what belongs to him."
"It might be between your legs but it belongs to me"
We do NOT believe in butt plugs and feel it has no place in a DD life style, even in D/s. Though he has joked about enemas before. Umm, NO! While I would have no control because he is my owner, I would die of embarrassment and would put up a fight. One time he had me grab my ankles and that was so humiliating, because he had my legs spread and everything in view. However there are times when I am over his knee (when in the car) or bent over on the floor he will spread my checks and that is horrible! I always squirm and tell him to quit. Not a good idea! Humiliating! HATE IT!
For you women out there, do you find that you ever crave, or need to feel your rear red? Do you find that you need it? Almost like you need the pain on your rear to feel your owners authority over you?
At times I feel like I need to feel the pain, but its a knowing of my owner taking me and putting me in my place and showing me his authority and controlling me.
After reading about some things, I feel like at times I am manipulating him into spanking me. Bratting! I know I am because I feel its what I need.
I also want him to feel his power, his control over me. I want him to know that he has complete control over me and enjoy his power and authority over me. I know he does in some respects because he likes to see my rear RED! A red bottom is a happy husband!
Anyone else feel that way?
~Jane
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Thank you all!!!
I want to take a moment and thank you all for your comments here on my page with my blog. As I'm sure most of you know that its a journey that comes up with many questions. Is this normal, is that normal? Should I feel this way? Is it working?
At times I doubt it and myself. At times I'm humiliated, at times I'm mad, and then at other times I feel a closeness to him that is not describable, and at times I crave it and need it. Sometimes it's confusing!
For us, it has saved our marriage! We had a bad thing happen a while back and it made us evaluate some things.
It is something that is so meaningful to use that we are going to make some jewelry (bracelets) that has something on it for each of us to help remind us of our place. We are going to use some sort of letters that nobody will pick up on and if anyone ask we will tell them its between me and owner.
I looked all over online and there are not many places that make DD/ Ms jewelry!
But I wanted to say thank you all for your help and comments along the way and I'm sure I will have more in the months to come.
At times I doubt it and myself. At times I'm humiliated, at times I'm mad, and then at other times I feel a closeness to him that is not describable, and at times I crave it and need it. Sometimes it's confusing!
For us, it has saved our marriage! We had a bad thing happen a while back and it made us evaluate some things.
It is something that is so meaningful to use that we are going to make some jewelry (bracelets) that has something on it for each of us to help remind us of our place. We are going to use some sort of letters that nobody will pick up on and if anyone ask we will tell them its between me and owner.
I looked all over online and there are not many places that make DD/ Ms jewelry!
But I wanted to say thank you all for your help and comments along the way and I'm sure I will have more in the months to come.
Thursday, March 7, 2013
I've been staying in trouble! :(
I can't even begin to tell you how many spankings I have gotten!
Yesterday I started with gettin sassy in a text message and his response was "Panties off NOW".... /sigh Plus the last 2 days prior to that Ive been havin to write lines......
Last night HOH had me do corner time, panties dropped to the floor and he makes sure my shirt is up high enough and if its not he comes and spanks my rear and pulls it up again, he seems to want my butt on display as much as it can be.......... Then I got discipline for having a "wall" up and being distant...... and then for havin a bratty attitude the night before, then I got maintence.
He told me Im getting maintence every night until further notice.
Then this morning I still had a wall up and because of that and for some other reason he had me in the closet, panties down with the hair brush. :(
Then when we came back to bed he said I still had a attitude and I did....... and I told him that he is still leaving me in control. He was quiet for a few mins, and then he said "You know what, you are not in control anymore." He grabbed me by my wrist firmly took me again into the closet, told me to pull down my panties in a firm voice and this time gave me a good hard sound spanking that I had no control over, I didn't know when he was going to stop even tho I was starting to move around. After he was done, still in a firm voice, he told me to pull my panties up and took me again firmly by the wrist and walked me to the bed and told me to get back in bed. I asked if I could go to the bathroom and he said "you can in a little bit." So after we talked for a few more minutes he asked me if I really had to go to the bathroom again, and I was doomed! Because I didn't really have to go, it was my way of still acting out, I guess. So because of lying to show out, even though I was acting alot better, another trip into the closet and I got it with the hair brush AGAIN!
He then informed me that NOW we are doing maintenance in the morning and at night.
However we are seeing HUGE improvement though!!!!!!!! The other day I finally got EVERYTHING on my chore list done, and in the time fame he wanted them done! I was so proud of myself and he was proud of me also! Finally I was able to stick to a schedule, and work on my time managment.
Even after this mornings spanking(s)....... Im in for more tonight because I have already broke one rule which is discipline which mean a spanking and corner time..... and then maintenance.
My poor red glowing butt! But I wouldn't change a thing! DD has brought us so much closer! It is helping me in so many areas of my life and our marriage. The only thing I would change is hubby gettin more firm with me, and I want him to be! I love him so much for that! I NEED that! Yet, he is very loving and always kissing me and holding me.......
Jane ~~~ Madly in love with Tarzan
Yesterday I started with gettin sassy in a text message and his response was "Panties off NOW".... /sigh Plus the last 2 days prior to that Ive been havin to write lines......
Last night HOH had me do corner time, panties dropped to the floor and he makes sure my shirt is up high enough and if its not he comes and spanks my rear and pulls it up again, he seems to want my butt on display as much as it can be.......... Then I got discipline for having a "wall" up and being distant...... and then for havin a bratty attitude the night before, then I got maintence.
He told me Im getting maintence every night until further notice.
Then this morning I still had a wall up and because of that and for some other reason he had me in the closet, panties down with the hair brush. :(
Then when we came back to bed he said I still had a attitude and I did....... and I told him that he is still leaving me in control. He was quiet for a few mins, and then he said "You know what, you are not in control anymore." He grabbed me by my wrist firmly took me again into the closet, told me to pull down my panties in a firm voice and this time gave me a good hard sound spanking that I had no control over, I didn't know when he was going to stop even tho I was starting to move around. After he was done, still in a firm voice, he told me to pull my panties up and took me again firmly by the wrist and walked me to the bed and told me to get back in bed. I asked if I could go to the bathroom and he said "you can in a little bit." So after we talked for a few more minutes he asked me if I really had to go to the bathroom again, and I was doomed! Because I didn't really have to go, it was my way of still acting out, I guess. So because of lying to show out, even though I was acting alot better, another trip into the closet and I got it with the hair brush AGAIN!
He then informed me that NOW we are doing maintenance in the morning and at night.
However we are seeing HUGE improvement though!!!!!!!! The other day I finally got EVERYTHING on my chore list done, and in the time fame he wanted them done! I was so proud of myself and he was proud of me also! Finally I was able to stick to a schedule, and work on my time managment.
Even after this mornings spanking(s)....... Im in for more tonight because I have already broke one rule which is discipline which mean a spanking and corner time..... and then maintenance.
My poor red glowing butt! But I wouldn't change a thing! DD has brought us so much closer! It is helping me in so many areas of my life and our marriage. The only thing I would change is hubby gettin more firm with me, and I want him to be! I love him so much for that! I NEED that! Yet, he is very loving and always kissing me and holding me.......
Jane ~~~ Madly in love with Tarzan
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Why is it?
Can someone explain to me, which I have a strong idea myself and from things Ive read, but I would like others thoughts..............Can someone explain why if the HOH of the house makes me stand in the corner naked, legs spread apart and hand on your head after and/or during the spanking for a break it has such a power effect? It is a turn on, yes.... but also very embarrassing. Why is it you feel so much more submissive tho? Its like a package deal?
Also, why is it when HOH tells you to not wear panties for the day, it makes you feel............. I don't know the words for it.................Anyone else know what Im saying? Like today...... Hubby told me no panties......
Can anyone explain these to me?
I know how I feel but trying to figure out how to word it and if the way I feel is like anyone else? Other HOHs and wives feel free to answer!!!!! Please!
~Jane
Also, why is it when HOH tells you to not wear panties for the day, it makes you feel............. I don't know the words for it.................Anyone else know what Im saying? Like today...... Hubby told me no panties......
Can anyone explain these to me?
I know how I feel but trying to figure out how to word it and if the way I feel is like anyone else? Other HOHs and wives feel free to answer!!!!! Please!
~Jane
Monday, March 4, 2013
Last night was...ummm... a bit different.....
Ive always been a smart mouth! Im a smart mouth even when I don't know it!
Hubby gave me 3 strikes yesterday.... I was just jokin around and playin..... but after the fact realized it was in fact disrespectful. I just don't know when to stop and when enough is enough. I've been this way my entire life. When he says thats strike 1.... I don't believe him or I laugh.
So last night I ended up with a maintenance.
But........
He did something else that we have not done yet in our DD lifestyle, and he said he was not sure if he would. I was shocked at the effect it had on me.
Yes, corner time! :( Wow! I felt horrible with this! He sent me in the closet and told me to pull down my panties, spread my legs, hand on the back on my head and he pulled up my shirt enough that my entire butt was showing. The effect it had on me was powerful! Needless to say I don't know if I like it or hate it. It was very humiliating when HOH would walk in and Im standing there like that, but it made me feel vulnerable to the man I love, which in turn brought submission. So good things about it, and things I do not like about it at all. But the effects of it I think out way the good of it. After that I got my discipline and I submitted to it with no back talk.
My HOH has stepped into this role so fast! I never knew he had it in him! He is alot more firm with me, he is not lettin me get away with things, and now not only is he disciplining me with spankings, he is doing maintenance, and now corner time. His spankings are starting to become a huge dread because he is spanking alot longer and a lot harder which is a GREAT thing for me b/c the longer and harder he does it the more of an impression it makes. And from all of that, I respect this man I married more than ever!!!!! I love every bit of authority he has over me!
Actually I forgot, I got 2 maintenance spankings yesterday. When I woke up yesterday morning my nerves were on edge and he knew it. I mentioned that I might need one (I promised to tell him when I felt I might) and he took me in the closet and gave me one. As soon as it was over it reset my thinking.
So thankful for DD in our life! TiH, TTWD! More so thankful for my HOH for taking this and running with it and making me fall into submission like the wife I should be.
~Jane DDLearning
Hubby gave me 3 strikes yesterday.... I was just jokin around and playin..... but after the fact realized it was in fact disrespectful. I just don't know when to stop and when enough is enough. I've been this way my entire life. When he says thats strike 1.... I don't believe him or I laugh.
So last night I ended up with a maintenance.
But........
He did something else that we have not done yet in our DD lifestyle, and he said he was not sure if he would. I was shocked at the effect it had on me.
Yes, corner time! :( Wow! I felt horrible with this! He sent me in the closet and told me to pull down my panties, spread my legs, hand on the back on my head and he pulled up my shirt enough that my entire butt was showing. The effect it had on me was powerful! Needless to say I don't know if I like it or hate it. It was very humiliating when HOH would walk in and Im standing there like that, but it made me feel vulnerable to the man I love, which in turn brought submission. So good things about it, and things I do not like about it at all. But the effects of it I think out way the good of it. After that I got my discipline and I submitted to it with no back talk.
My HOH has stepped into this role so fast! I never knew he had it in him! He is alot more firm with me, he is not lettin me get away with things, and now not only is he disciplining me with spankings, he is doing maintenance, and now corner time. His spankings are starting to become a huge dread because he is spanking alot longer and a lot harder which is a GREAT thing for me b/c the longer and harder he does it the more of an impression it makes. And from all of that, I respect this man I married more than ever!!!!! I love every bit of authority he has over me!
Actually I forgot, I got 2 maintenance spankings yesterday. When I woke up yesterday morning my nerves were on edge and he knew it. I mentioned that I might need one (I promised to tell him when I felt I might) and he took me in the closet and gave me one. As soon as it was over it reset my thinking.
So thankful for DD in our life! TiH, TTWD! More so thankful for my HOH for taking this and running with it and making me fall into submission like the wife I should be.
~Jane DDLearning
Spanking Survey I found
SPANKING
SURVEY
Have you ever gotten
spanked? YES!
Are you spanked bare
bottomed, over panties, or over clothes? Bare Bottom
What is the best thing about
being spanked? It makes me feel loved and cared - it makes me feel submissve and lets my husband exercise his authority over me when Ive done something that needs correcting. But it also keeps me vulnerable and feminine for the man I trust, it reinforces our roles in our marriage.
What position do you get
spanked in? However,
my husband desires to give me a spanking I will submitt. Usually its me bending all the way over. Tho I have been OTK, and a few times over the hood of the car in our garage b/c of company.
Have you ever gotten spanked in public? No
What do you get spanked with the most? Rubber Hair Brush
On a scale of 1-10 how much does the average spanking hurt? It varies
Have you ever gotten spanked with a hairbrush? Yes
Have you ever been spanked so hard that you started to cry? Yes
Were you spanked as a child? No, not really.
Have you ever gotten spanked for bad driving (speeding ticket, etc)? No.
Have you ever gotten a spanking for no reason at all? Yes, maintenance in our household is for many reasons, but one of those reasons is if my HOH decides it just needs to be done just as a reminder or to just put me in a feminine mood, more submissive. Or flat out just because..... Just b/c he feels its due.
Have you ever gotten spanked by a teacher? No
Is your butt spankable? It must be.
Are you currently in trouble? Probably, hubby keeps asking me if I did something when he told me to, by a certain time frame and I keep ignoring the question and answering with other things.
Do you get lectured during the spanking? No, not during. But like last night, he wanted to make sure I knew why.
Have you ever seen someone else get spanked? Not as an adult.
Have you ever gotten spanked for cursing? No
Have you ever gotten spanked for lying? No
Have you ever been spanked with more than one spanking
instrument in one spanking session? Yes.... Hairbrush, wooden spoon, blind rod, and hand
Do you hate
spankings? It is a very strong love/hate relationship with it. I know I need it, it has helped. It has made our marriage so much stronger! It was what we both needed.
How many people spank you? Just my husband.
Have you ever gotten spanked with your butt in the air? I suppose.
Have you ever gotten spanked so hard your butt was purple? Bruised
Do you think that spanking
is a good punishment? I view it as discipline. And yes! However, corner time also sucks.
Do you believe spanking has made your relationship better,
or worse? Definitely
better.
Is your butt red and sore afterwards? Yes. HOH likes to see it glow red.
Have you ever gotten spanked with a sneaker? No
Is your butt red and sore afterwards? Yes. HOH likes to see it glow red.
Have you ever gotten spanked with a sneaker? No
Have you ever been spanked twice in one day? Yes
Have you ever asked to be spanked for something you did wrong? Yes. Ive also asked for maintenance, however HOH usually knows when I need both.
Would you talk about spousal spankings to your friends/family members? No. Is it because Im ashamed? NO! But I doubt they would understand. It not like its a secret, but rather its something private between me and my HOH.
Have you ever gotten you butt caned? No.
Have you ever gotten spanked with a wooden spoon? Yes.
What do you get spanked for? Lots of reasons.
On average, how many times a
month are you spanked? Just about every day, or every other day.
Do your friends know that you get spanked? No
.
On a 1-10 scale, how hard would you get spanked for something serious,such as speeding? it varies. Sometimes not so hard and therefore doesn't have that much of an effect and usually leads to a spanking later. The harder and longer he goes the more of an impression it makes and resets my thinking and takes away my control and makes me more submissive and vunlnerable to my husband, which makes me for feminine for him and give him the respect he deserves.
On a 1-10 scale, how hard would you get spanked for something serious,such as speeding? it varies. Sometimes not so hard and therefore doesn't have that much of an effect and usually leads to a spanking later. The harder and longer he goes the more of an impression it makes and resets my thinking and takes away my control and makes me more submissive and vunlnerable to my husband, which makes me for feminine for him and give him the respect he deserves.
Have you ever gotten your butt belted? No
Have you ever gotten your butt paddled? No
After your spanking is over, how long before you repeat the same offense? Every day it seems, but slowly, VERY slowly we are seeing benefits in some of the correction my HOH sees I need to make.
Does your spouse enjoy spanking you? He likes seeing my butt glow I think.....Does he get off on it? I dont think so, but he does enjoy after it when I feel like I melt into him and I am at his mercy and he has taken away my pride and spanks me back into submission, and vulnerable to him.
When is the last time you got spanked? Embarrassing corner time and yes spanking.
Have you ever spanked yourself? No.
What is the worst thing about being spanked? Pulling down my panties in front of my husband. Its embarrassing and then bending over. However again, this DOES serve a STRONG purpose! Submissive, feminine, vulnerable and remembering our roles.
How long does the spanking
last? It varies, tho they seem to be getting longer and harder.
Do you like to be spanked? See above.
Would you describe yourself as a rule follower, or a rule breaker? Both!!!! No doubt! I have to have rules as HOH and I have figured out, it is important in our marriage..... However Im always breakin them it seems........... but slowly.......... things are getting better and Im learning..... Discipline has helped a lot..... and the connection we share.......
Thursday, February 28, 2013
I am in big trouble for tonight. But I deserve it!
I feel so bad! I will take any discipline that my HOH feels I need!
Today it was all fine.... We were joking around on the phone and then, still while joking, out of my mouth comes, "You freaking Son of a B****" and as soon as it came out of my mouth I was shocked!!!!!!!
I right away told him I was sorry!!!!!
He said I am in trouble when he gets home. He understands I was playing around but still it was disrespectful.
But we have gotten so close that I am actually NOT dreading this spanking, rather I deserve it and welcome it!
Before DD I would not have cared that I said that, that it was wrong. But today was the first day that I actually feel bad that I disrepected him and called him that even though I was playing around and obviously did not mean it!
I feel TERRIBLE!!
I told him many times how sorry I was and then sent him an email. I am NOT trying to get out of discipline at all, instead I deserve every bit of it and I am going to try my best to not move and like last night while being spanked think really hard about why I am being spanked.
Tarzan, if you are reading this, again I am so sorry! So sorry!
Please discipline me accordingly because I deserve it! I deserve the worse discipline that I've had yet! Writing lines, spanking, corner time, spanking again... Whatever YOU feel is needed as you have 100% control of me because I am yours. I feel horrible and I NEVER EVER want to slip up like that again. I am so sorry!
I love you Tarzan!
Yours forever,
Jane DDlearning
Today it was all fine.... We were joking around on the phone and then, still while joking, out of my mouth comes, "You freaking Son of a B****" and as soon as it came out of my mouth I was shocked!!!!!!!
I right away told him I was sorry!!!!!
He said I am in trouble when he gets home. He understands I was playing around but still it was disrespectful.
But we have gotten so close that I am actually NOT dreading this spanking, rather I deserve it and welcome it!
Before DD I would not have cared that I said that, that it was wrong. But today was the first day that I actually feel bad that I disrepected him and called him that even though I was playing around and obviously did not mean it!
I feel TERRIBLE!!
I told him many times how sorry I was and then sent him an email. I am NOT trying to get out of discipline at all, instead I deserve every bit of it and I am going to try my best to not move and like last night while being spanked think really hard about why I am being spanked.
Tarzan, if you are reading this, again I am so sorry! So sorry!
Please discipline me accordingly because I deserve it! I deserve the worse discipline that I've had yet! Writing lines, spanking, corner time, spanking again... Whatever YOU feel is needed as you have 100% control of me because I am yours. I feel horrible and I NEVER EVER want to slip up like that again. I am so sorry!
I love you Tarzan!
Yours forever,
Jane DDlearning
ouch!
Ok.... So last night I really messed up!
Yikes and Ouch!
Last night was maintenance which we agreed we would do for the next few days because there has been some distancing, mainly from me.
Plus I didn't get everything done on my chore list.
After the maintenance I was crying! He gave me a few minutes to and then I asked to go ahead and do my discipline so we could get it over with.
I am happy to say and proud of myself because I knew it was all coming and so I had the container I bend over in our closest set up with rubber back hair brush, and wooden spoon, and the blind (that opens and closes the blinds) stick ready. I was just in my T-shirt because I had just got out of the shower and I was waiting for him when he got home.
Let me tell you --- the rubber brush HURTS!
Our new way of handling things is working out great for us..... I can not talk while the spanking is happening, and the way we have me positioned he can hold me down. We have also decided that he will stop when he is ready, that I am not going to know how many smacks. With doing all that it takes my control away.
Well then last night I got an attitude, but I didn't see it! I was laughin an playing around, but HOH said that I was being disrespectful even though I was playing around. He warned me but I still didn't see it. So back into the closet we went, rubber hair brush again.
When we came out, I was sittin on the bed and he said he could tell that I still had an attitude. In all honesty I was just playin around with him. Yet he said I was still disrespectful. So back into the bathroom we went. This time instead of our normal spot, I had to bend over the tub and he used the blind rod. When he was done I was still sassy, and I kinda giggled......... Not meaning to....... So he pulled me back in the closet for another round of the rubber brush. This time I tried to relax and think about what he was sayin while I was gettin spanked and he just kept spanking and spanking and finally I saw what he was saying.
After that spanking I saw exactly what he was saying. It took him spanking me a few times to get it into my thick head!!!!!
So, yeah.......... OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yikes and Ouch!
Last night was maintenance which we agreed we would do for the next few days because there has been some distancing, mainly from me.
Plus I didn't get everything done on my chore list.
After the maintenance I was crying! He gave me a few minutes to and then I asked to go ahead and do my discipline so we could get it over with.
I am happy to say and proud of myself because I knew it was all coming and so I had the container I bend over in our closest set up with rubber back hair brush, and wooden spoon, and the blind (that opens and closes the blinds) stick ready. I was just in my T-shirt because I had just got out of the shower and I was waiting for him when he got home.
Let me tell you --- the rubber brush HURTS!
Our new way of handling things is working out great for us..... I can not talk while the spanking is happening, and the way we have me positioned he can hold me down. We have also decided that he will stop when he is ready, that I am not going to know how many smacks. With doing all that it takes my control away.
Well then last night I got an attitude, but I didn't see it! I was laughin an playing around, but HOH said that I was being disrespectful even though I was playing around. He warned me but I still didn't see it. So back into the closet we went, rubber hair brush again.
When we came out, I was sittin on the bed and he said he could tell that I still had an attitude. In all honesty I was just playin around with him. Yet he said I was still disrespectful. So back into the bathroom we went. This time instead of our normal spot, I had to bend over the tub and he used the blind rod. When he was done I was still sassy, and I kinda giggled......... Not meaning to....... So he pulled me back in the closet for another round of the rubber brush. This time I tried to relax and think about what he was sayin while I was gettin spanked and he just kept spanking and spanking and finally I saw what he was saying.
After that spanking I saw exactly what he was saying. It took him spanking me a few times to get it into my thick head!!!!!
So, yeah.......... OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But afterwards.............because he corrected me and helped me.
We ended up here...............
Thursday, February 21, 2013
How has DDlifestyle helped your marriage?
How has DD helped your marriage? TTWD? TiH?
How do you handle things in your relationship?
How has it help you have a peaceful household?
Lookin forward to hearing yalls comments!
How do you handle things in your relationship?
How has it help you have a peaceful household?
Lookin forward to hearing yalls comments!
This says it all!
OR ELSE!!!!!!!!! DD in action between a loving couple! He is her HOH and she needs to be submissive. This kind of discipline is to remind you of your place, role in your marriage, or for breakin a rule or what HOH expects! Or in my case disrespect and gettin an attitude and horrible time managment!!! Or not finishing my chores. He does this out of love, I give him that authority over me and it makes me feel protected, loved, and reminds me of who is in control and puts me back in my submissive role, even if I am being submissive, sometimes I just need it as a reminder to continue.
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